Wedding Update

Can we just talk about how freakin stressful wedding planning is?! I totally recommend not having ANYTHING else on your plate when planning a wedding, unless you’re hiring a full time wedding planner. I may be exaggerating a little bit, but I seriously never thought it would be this hard.


Rewind to the first days of Pinterest, circa 2009, sometime in college-when everyone was loving the DIY craze and skipping happy hour to stay home on a friday night and pin. I was so excited to SOMEDAY get engaged, and plan a wedding. Well that someday came about 5 years later, in the middle of starting my LPC intern licensing hours and being the sole writer for a 3 month old blog (which I LOVE-no complaints here). Don’t get me wrong I love being engaged, and really can’t wait to get married, I’m just a little indecisive when it comes to making decisions for ONE DAY.

So we met with a photographer, (mind you, we have yet to pick a venue/city/date–cause [cue the sarcasm] that’s the right order to do things.) and we loved them! A bit pricey, but I feel that photography is probably one of the most important things for your wedding day, so we think it’s okay to splurge. They get our (my) style and we’re possibly going to book them, because even if we don’t do get married in town, they will travel. So I’m meeting with her Monday to sign contracts. (ahhh!) It will feel so good to check that off the list.

My sister’s and I are going to a wedding fair on Sunday, so I’m excited to meet vendors and get the ball rolling. We’re just so anxious to pick a venue and set a date, once that’s done- I feel like things will start coming together.

TO all my newlywed readers and/or brides to be: Let me in on your secrets to a less stressful wedding planning process. Any suggestions/recommendations!? Would love to chat with y’all! As always you can leave a comment here, or send me an email to Have a good weekend!

Thanks for reading, && HAPPY FRIDAY!!


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  1. My secret: have a wedding 1 1/2 years out from when you get engaged! We’re getting married in June 2015 and we got engaged in January. So far I have only had one panic attack because I was like “OMG June will be here before we know it and we haven’t even taken engagement pics yet”. But my big sis from my sorority is my wedding planner so she’s kinda got my back with all this stuff and reminds me that I have all the time in the world!

    Definitely take it slow and make sure you negotiate everything! We got a free bartender from our venue because we thought their prices were insane and almost didn’t book with them.


    • This is great advice! I know that’s how I feel. I get so stressed out about time restraints. It’s so hard to coordinate dates with photographer, music, venue, and my fiancé’s work schedule! But I know if we plan ahead, we will have more options. & I am the queen negotiator too!! Will definitely keep that in mind. Thanks so much for your help! I hope you will be documenting your planning process as well! Thanks for reading and congratulations on your engagement/upcoming wedding!

  2. I completely completely agree about splurging on the photographer. That was our first splurge. So worth it.

    My best advice would be to write a list of the major things you need to accomplish so that you can see it all in one place. It gets less overwhelming at that point. Then, try to let go of as much of the wedding as possible and allow other people to help you out.

    My husband and I had just gotten engaged and picked our date, venue, and caterer when he was diagnosed with leukemia. Working full-time while trying to be at the hospital full-time threw a huge wrench into my OCD control-freak wedding planning mode, but it might have actually made things better.

    I was able to let go a lot of the emotion attached to having different things a specific way. It didn’t mean that I didn’t still do a bunch of DIY projects, but I realized it was still going to be a wonderful wedding even if they didn’t all come out the way I wanted. And I think reducing the pressure made all the difference.

    Even without something like cancer, I think you can try to take off the pressure by making a list of what’s really important to you in your life and your wedding and just keep reminding yourself of that. I think at one point, I ended up making a list of the things that I knew I’d really regret if I didn’t get them perfectly and then forced myself to delegate everything else.

    “Everything else” really ended up being pretty great even without me constantly checking on it. You’ll get there and everything will be fabulous. Make sure to really enjoy your time planning! This should be fun!

  3. Thank you for sharing Jillian! & I thought I had a lot on my plate, wow I can’t even imagine what you went through. Glad your husband beat cancer, love yall’s story. This was all great advice. I’m also a huge control-freak and it absolutely terrifies me to have to make huge decisions and trust people (who are professionals) with THE biggest day of my life. But I agree with you, “everything else” usually always comes out just fine. I need to remember not to want to take care of every detail and let others help. My fiancé is a huge help with planning, I just need to let him go to appts and trust him to make decisions without me sometimes. :) Thanks for stopping by and reading! I appreciate the advice.


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